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第10章 EpisodesinLife生命中的插曲(3)

’You have to wake up, you have things that you have not done yet... You have me, my father and your new-born son. You cannot just leaveus... and you will be fine... trust me...“I was scared to death. At that moment, I felt that I would lost my mother forever- that she was never going to come back.

Many thoughts flashed through my mind. What would life be like if the unthinkable happened- life without my mother? I could only imagine that my life would be full of darkness, sadness and hopelessness. I would lose my closest relative, my dearest friend, and I would never again have the chance to enjoy the love of my mother. Remember, during these fifteen years, my mother was always around, watching over me, no matter what. I could not imagine how I was possibly going to survive without her.

Of course, I told myself that it would not happen, that she might leave me after thirty, forty, fifty or more years, but definitely not now, not yet. It was too early. I wasn‘t ready to let her go.

After I slowly came back to reality, I noticed that a flood of tears was running down my cheeks.

My mother survived that night. You can imagine my great relief when she woke up the next morning. I was so excited. I gave her a big hug as I cried tears of happiness.

My mother told me that she had actually heard the words that I had said to her when she was unconscious. Three times she had almost stopped breathing, but she told herself to stay alive, for us, her family.

Later, many nurses said my mother was incredibly lucky to survive because she had lost a lot of blood. Of course, I gave them the most glorious smile, which said it all.

Today, my brother is almost two years old. On the day of his birthday, I always remember this unforgettable event in my life. I remember that I’m a really lucky person, with great parents and a wonderful little brother.

意外会让我们成长、成熟,会让我们更珍惜我们今天所拥有的一切。

参考翻译(佚名)

人的意志控制着身体,很少有病痛能够击垮专注的精神和坚定的意志。

--凯瑟琳大部分人都经历过生命中的一些难忘的事情,我难忘的是发生在我家人身上的那些事。

生命的头15年里,我只是个孩子。我是家里的独生子,没有其他兄弟姐妹。幸运的是,我总有父母在身边,他们非常爱我,关心我。他们可以帮我解决任何问题,为我做一切事情。我从来不愿意想,要是有一天他们其中一个不在了该怎么办。

一天,我发现母亲怀孕了,这对我们家来说可是件大事。每个人都很兴奋,尤其是我。我想象着我就要有个小弟弟了,我想着我可以和他一起玩,一起玩得很开心。他会有张可爱的脸,用他那天真的眼神看着我,请求我陪他一起玩。真希望那天能早点儿来。我一直问妈妈有关弟弟这样那样的问题,比如他会长什么样,吃什么,什么时候出生等。终于有天早上,母亲要生产了。父亲陪她到医院,而我却上学去了。当然,我想一切都应该很顺利。毕竟,每天都有女人生孩子。因此,我希望一到医院就能看到我的婴儿弟弟。

放学后,我去了医院,小弟弟已经出生了。但母亲却还在手术室,父亲在门外焦急地等待着。经过漫长的等待之后,医生终于出来了,医生告诉我们母亲生完弟弟后大出血,他们无法止血。他告诉我们别担心,妈妈会好的。然后,他又回手术室去了,几秒钟后,很多医生和护士冲了进去。此时我和父亲就更担心了。等待真是种痛苦,我们意识到什么事情都可能发生,而我们所能做的只有等待了。

晚上7点,妈妈被推出手术室。她躺在床上,戴着氧气罩,静脉输液。她的脸如死人般惨白,眼睛是闭着的。

“妈妈,妈妈!”我叫她,可她没反应。医生说如果妈妈能熬过当晚,就没事了。之后医生把妈妈送进了重症监护室。

病房里设了许多检查血压,脉搏和心率的仪器。我站在床边和她说话,不管她能不能听到。

“您得醒过来,您还有很多事没做呢……您还有我,还有父亲和刚刚出生的儿子。您不能丢下我们,您会好起来的,相信我!”

我几乎吓死了。那时,我感觉我将永远失去母亲了,她再也不会回来了。

许多念头自脑海中飞速闪过,如果无法想象的事情发生了--生活中不再有母亲的存在,生活会是什么样的呢?我所能想象的只有暗无天日,充满悲伤,毫无希望可言的生活。我将失去我最亲的亲人,失去我最亲爱的朋友,再也享受不到母亲的爱了。您想想,以前的15年里,不论发生什么,母亲总在身边看护着我。我实在无法想象,没有她我将如何活下去。

当然,我对自己说这不会发生的,可能30,40,50年后或者更久她才会离我而去的,但绝不是现在,现在还不到时候。现在还太早了,我还没准备好放手让她走。

慢慢地我回到了现实,我意识到自己满脸是泪。那晚我母亲熬过来了。你能想象得出那天早上她睁眼的时候,我真是大松了一口气。我是如此兴奋,我哭着、笑着,给了她一个大大的拥抱。

我的母亲告诉我她处于昏迷状态时,她听到了我对她说的话。有三次她几乎停止了呼吸,但是她告诉自己她得活着,活着和我们--她的家人在一起。

护士说我的母亲能熬过来太幸运了,这简直是个奇迹,因为她失血过多。当然,我给了他们最灿烂的笑容,这说明了一切。

今天,我弟弟已经两岁了。每年在他生日的那一天,我总会想起生命中这一难忘的时刻。我会记得,能有伟大的父母和一个可爱的小弟弟陪伴,我真是太幸运了。

16 Steps to Self-discovery and Self-empowerment自我发现和自我强大的 16 步Anonymous1.We affirm that we have the power to take charge of our own lives and to stop being dependent on substances or other people for our self- esteem or our security.

2.We come to believe that our emerging self will reveal to us the healing wisdom that lives within us all when we are ready, willing and able to open ourselves up to the healing process.

3.We make a decision to become our authentic selves and trust in the healing power of the truth.

4.We examine our beliefs, our addictions, and our dependent behavior in the context of living in a hierarchical, patriarchal culture.

5.We share with another person and our emerging self all those things inside of us for which we feel shame and guilt.

6.We affirm and enjoy our strengths, our talents, and our creativity,striving not to hide these qualities to protect others‘ egos.

7.We become willing to let go of our shame, our guilt, and any behavior that keeps us from loving ourselves and others.

8.We make a list of people we have harmed and people who have harmed us, and take steps to clear out negative energy by making amends and sharing our grievances; both in a respectful way.

9.We express love and gratitude to others, and increasingly appreciate the wonder of life and the blessings we do have.

10.We continue to trust our reality and daily affirm that we see what we see, we know what we know, and we feel what we feel.

11.We promptly acknowledge our mistakes and make amends when appropriate, but we do not say we are sorry for things we have not done and we do not cover up, analyze, or take responsibility for the shortcomings of others.

12.We seek out situations, jobs, and people that affirm our intelligence, perceptions, and self-worth and avoid situations or people who are hurtful, harmful, or demeaning to us.

13.We take steps to heal our physical bodies, organize our lives, reduce our stress, and have fun.

14.We seek to find our inward calling, and develop the will and wisdom to follow it.

15.We accept the ups and downs of life as natural events that can be used as lessons for our growth.

16.We grow in awareness that we are interrelated with all living things, and we contribute to restoring peace and balance on the planet.

我们只有不断使自己变得强大,才能坦然接受生活中的跌宕起伏。

参考翻译(王伟明)

1.我们坚信我们有能力控制我们自己的生活,而不依赖于物质和其他人给予我们自尊和安全。

2.我们开始相信当我们准备好,愿意并且能够接受这个复苏的过程时,展现在我们面前的复苏的智慧就在我们中间。

3.我们决定变成最真实的我们,并且完全相信真理的力量。

4.我们要在这个等级分明,父权统治的文化背景中不断地审视自己的信念,癖好以及依赖性的行为。

5.我们和别人分享内心里所有令我们感到羞愧和内疚的事情。

6.我们肯定并且享用我们的力量,我们的才能,我们的创造力,尽力去展现这些品质,以使他人过分地自我。

7.我们愿意让我们的耻辱和愧疚,以及那些会阻碍我们爱我们自己和别人的行为随风飘散。

8.我们列出一个清单写上我们曾经伤害过的人和曾经伤害过我们的人,以一种相互尊重的方式,对他人作出补偿并与他人分享我们心中的委屈,用这种方法来逐渐清除内心的负面力量。

9.我们向别人表达爱和感激,然后越来越能欣赏生活带来的奇迹和我们做的祝福。

10.我们继续相信现实,每天都坚信我们看到了我们所看的东西,我们知道了我们了解的东西,我们感受到了我们感觉的东西。

11.我们迅速地承认我们的错误,并且在合适的时候作出弥补,但是我们不会为我们没有做的事情表示遗憾,不会对别人的缺点掩盖、分析和负责任。