Perhaps it was this very severity towards any indulgence of what she held to be sinful regret in herself, that made her shrink from applying her own standard to her husband."It is very different--it is much worse for a man to be disappointed in that way: a woman can always be satisfied with devoting herself to her husband, but a man wants something that will make him look forward more--and sitting by the fire is so much duller to him than to a woman." And always, when Nancy reached this point in her meditations--trying, with predetermined sympathy, to see everything as Godfrey saw it--there came a renewal of self-questioning._Had_ she done everything in her power to lighten Godfrey's privation? Had she really been right in the resistance which had cost her so much pain six years ago, and again four years ago--the resistance to her husband's wish that they should adopt a child? Adoption was more remote from the ideas and habits of that time than of our own; still Nancy had her opinion on it.It was as necessary to her mind to have an opinion on all topics, not exclusively masculine, that had come under her notice, as for her to have a precisely marked place for every article of her personal property: and her opinions were always principles to be unwaveringly acted on.They were firm, not because of their basis, but because she held them with a tenacity inseparable from her mental action.On all the duties and proprieties of life, from filial behaviour to the arrangements of the evening toilette, pretty Nancy Lammeter, by the time she was three-and-twenty, had her unalterable little code, and had formed every one of her habits in strict accordance with that code.She carried these decided judgments within her in the most unobtrusive way: they rooted themselves in her mind, and grew there as quietly as grass.Years ago, we know, she insisted on dressing like Priscilla, because "it was right for sisters to dress alike", and because "she would do what was right if she wore a gown dyed with cheese-colouring".That was a trivial but typical instance of the mode in which Nancy's life was regulated.
It was one of those rigid principles, and no petty egoistic feeling, which had been the ground of Nancy's difficult resistance to her husband's wish.To adopt a child, because children of your own had been denied you, was to try and choose your lot in spite of Providence: the adopted child, she was convinced, would never turn out well, and would be a curse to those who had wilfully and rebelliously sought what it was clear that, for some high reason, they were better without.When you saw a thing was not meant to be, said Nancy, it was a bounden duty to leave off so much as wishing for it.And so far, perhaps, the wisest of men could scarcely make more than a verbal improvement in her principle.But the conditions under which she held it apparent that a thing was not meant to be, depended on a more peculiar mode of thinking.She would have given up ****** a purchase at a particular place if, on three successive times, rain, or some other cause of Heaven's sending, had formed an obstacle; and she would have anticipated a broken limb or other heavy misfortune to any one who persisted in spite of such indications.
"But why should you think the child would turn out ill?" said Godfrey, in his remonstrances."She has thriven as well as child can do with the weaver; and _he_ adopted her.There isn't such a pretty little girl anywhere else in the parish, or one fitter for the station we could give her.Where can be the likelihood of her being a curse to anybody?""Yes, my dear Godfrey," said Nancy, who was sitting with her hands tightly clasped together, and with yearning, regretful affection in her eyes."The child may not turn out ill with the weaver.But, then, he didn't go to seek her, as we should be doing.It will be wrong: I feel sure it will.Don't you remember what that lady we met at the Royston Baths told us about the child her sister adopted?
That was the only adopting I ever heard of: and the child was transported when it was twenty-three.Dear Godfrey, don't ask me to do what I know is wrong: I should never be happy again.I know it's very hard for _you_--it's easier for me--but it's the will of Providence."It might seem singular that Nancy--with her religious theory pieced together out of narrow social traditions, fragments of church doctrine imperfectly understood, and girlish reasonings on her small experience--should have arrived by herself at a way of thinking so nearly akin to that of many devout people, whose beliefs are held in the shape of a system quite remote from her knowledge--singular, if we did not know that human beliefs, like all other natural growths, elude the barriers of system.
Godfrey had from the first specified Eppie, then about twelve years old, as a child suitable for them to adopt.It had never occurred to him that Silas would rather part with his life than with Eppie.