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第10章 下一站幸福 (9)

Next, get moving. Go help someone—either a friend or a stranger. Go and shovel their driveway or drive them to the grocery store. Go and clean out one of your closets. Go and do something constructive—perhaps something that you know you love to do. Go and introduce yourself to a neighbor, or read to someone at the hospital. It will move you, and I promise you, it will make you feel happy to “get out of your own way”.

And remember—happiness is part of love, and love is an ocean. Go dive in and get some, and then share it with everyone—there is an endless supply!

世界上数以百万的人们正传递着他们的幸福快乐——他们做自己喜爱的事:写作、教书、建房子、治疗……因为这些事能让他们感到幸福快乐。

幸福快乐是什么?仅仅是一种情感吗?至少,我不认为如此。霍桑曾写道:“幸福就像一只蝴蝶,当你去追逐它时,总也抓不住;如果你静静地坐下来,它便会落在你的身上。”

当我深入思考这些时,发觉自己处在一个虚幻的世界中。这个“空间”没有文字,没有物质,只有纯粹的爱和其他美好——欢乐、和平、幸福、福佑、欢喜……它对我有强烈的感染力,使我不知道如何描述。谁能将这种感觉写出来呢?这种感觉只是无边无尽的沧海一粟。

让我感到幸福快乐的事,不胜枚举。但是,我知道其中一些,对你来说,并不意味着幸福,你甚至会认为它们是一种惩罚。如果你过来建议我们一起去蹦极,我怀疑自己可能会找借口离开:“不,谢谢,我宁愿去做根管治疗。”“幸福快乐”的感觉很美妙,会让你露出笑容。所以,在很大程度上,它取决于你的个人经历。每天,你寻找不同的方式来感受幸福。现在让你感到幸福快乐的是什么呢?你知道吗?今天,让你感到真正幸福快乐的事,能列举出五个例子吗?太好了!写下来吧!

希望你已经想出了一打快乐的事,而不仅仅是五个。不过,五个对于刚开始来说已经很不错了。把第一件事大声读出来,请再大声点儿!这次,有感情地去读,很好!非常好!你笑了吗?如果没有,为什么?请放松,这儿有许多乐趣!同样地,把下面的四件事也大声读出来,并要带着感情。

知道哪些事让你感受幸福快乐,很不错吧?大声说出来,是不是很好呢?

现在,既然你“幸福快乐的想法”已经写下来了,那么请把它们放到日程表里、电脑旁或书桌上、床头柜旁——把你的清单放在画框里,如果你愿意的话,这都没关系。但是,请别藏起来——把它放在任何一个你容易看到的地方,因为你随时都可能用到它。下次,当你心情烦闷,或者感到不快乐的时候,把你的五个幸福想法拿出来,大声朗读。记住:要带着感情,希望读完后你会好受些。

但是,你还没有完全做完!还没有!

接下来,行动起来,去帮助某人——不论是一个朋友还是陌生人。帮他们清一下车道,或开车送他们去杂货店。清理一下你的衣柜,做些有用的事——比如那些你喜欢的。向一个邻居作自我介绍,或者到医院去给病人读些书,这些都会让你感动。并且,我保证,它会让你感到幸福快乐,“摆脱郁闷”。

最后,记住:幸福是爱的一部分,潜入爱的海洋,然后与他人分享自己的爱——爱是用之不竭的。

记忆填空

1. So“happiness”feels good, it makes you _______ , and it is based largely on your o0wn personal_______. Each day, you find different ways to feel happy. make you happy right now? Do you know? Can you list five things, today, that make you feel really, truly happy? Great! Write them _______!

2. Isn’t it_______ to know the things that make you feel happy? Isn’t it great to be _______ to express this out loud?

3. The next time you have a blue _______ , or you feel UNHAPPY, pull out your five happy thoughts and read them all . Remember—say them with_______!

佳句翻译

1. 幸福就像一只蝴蝶,当你去追逐它时,总也抓不住;如果你静静地坐下来,它便会落在你的身上。

2. 这种感觉只是无边无尽的沧海一粟。

3. 幸福是爱的一部分,潜入爱的海洋,然后与他人分享自己的爱。

短语应用

1. When I go deep and ponder such things, I find myself in an abstract place.

go deep:深入

2. But please, don’t hide this list away —keep it somewhere handy where you can see it.

hide away:把……隐藏

选择乐观

Choose Optimism

佚名 / Anonymous

If you expect something to turn out badly, it probably will. Pessimism is seldom disappointed. But the same principle also works in reverse. If you expect good things to happen, they usually do! There seems to be a natural cause-and-effect relationship between optimism and success.

Optimism and pessimism are both powerful forces, and each of us must choose which we want to shape our outlook and our expectations. There is enough good and bad in everyone’s life —ample sorrow and happiness, sufficient joy and pain —to find a rational basis for either optimism or pessimism. We can choose to laugh or cry, bless or curse. It’s our decision: From which perspective do we want to view life? Will we look up in hope or down in despair?

I believe in the upward look. I choose to highlight the positive and slip right over the negative. I am an optimist by choice as much as by nature. Sure, I know that sorrow exists. I am in my 70s now, and I’ve lived through more than one crisis. But when all is said and done, I find that the good in life far outweighs the bad.

An optimistic attitude is not a luxury; it’s a necessity. The way you look at life will determine how you feel, how you perform, and how well you will get along with other people. Conversely, negative thoughts, attitudes, and expectations feed on themselves; they become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Pessimism creates a dismal place where no one wants to live.

Years ago, I drove into a service station to get some gas. It was a beautiful day, and I was feeling great. As I walked into the station to pay for the gas, the attendant said to me, “How do you feel?” That seemed like an odd question, but I felt fine and told him so. “You don’t look well,” he replied. This took me completely by surprise. A little less confidently, I told him that I had never felt better. Without hesitation, he continued to tell me how bad I looked and that my skin appeared yellow.